So, I’ve just come back in from my increasingly regular binge eating sessions. I’m upset so it was four biscuits, a Lindor, a chunk of cheese, some left over Quavers, a scone and a choccy Rocky bar. Don’t worry, I’m a size 8, still breastfeeding, have a fast metabolism and will probably feel too nauseous to eat dinner.
I’m all for honesty and telling it like it is. I think people should be free to express their opinions and feelings freely in their little corner of the internet.
You know why?
How can other people know how you’re feeling if you don’t tell them? How can other people know that what they’re feeling is normal? How can you find other people who get it if they don’t know what it is?
The problem we come across a lot as mothers is that there is a stigma. There is a stigma about saying you can’t cope or that your kids make you so angry and frustrated you can’t see straight. We are expected to go online and sing the praises of our children who have made our day miserable being bored, while we are lonely and actually just want a virtual hug and for someone to say “yeah, they grow out of that.”
You may think I focus too much on the negatives. If you don’t like what I write, don’t read it. The internet is my place to vent. It’s the little space I have away from my kids where I can express just how much I hate being kicked in the face during nappy changes. I do love my children. And as I’ve said before, it is only because I love them so much that they can wind me up to the point where I want to turn my own face inside out.
The reason people don’t say these things? Judgement, accusations of not loving their kids.
These judgements are why some women suffer in silence, feeling isolated and alone. This is why some of us are medicated zombies, lead to believe that we need to put up and shut up because we wanted the children.
Sometimes people who should know better cast these judgements instead of offering an ear and a cup of tea.
You should never be ashamed of your feelings and you should never ever feel like you can’t express them freely. You’ll be surprised at how many other voices will say “me too!”