Ok, the results are in.
Looks like my breakdown has hurt The Toddler. She’s normally caring and loving towards other children. The only time she lashes out is with us because we frustrate her.
Today, the childminder reported that she threw her dinner at them, refused nappy changes and followed them with tantrums and pulled another childs’ hair so hard she came away with a clump of it in her hand.
Needless to say we are totally mortified. Please let it be an isolated incident!